A New Year and a New Resolution to Plan End of Life

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I experience on nearly a daily basis, the following scenario; While greeting guests at the door of the funeral home or church, someone will walk up and say, “Bill and I are going to come and sit down with you and plan our funerals. We are going to do this very soon, I ‘ll call you in the next few weeks. We want to get this taken care of for our kids”.


The same routine over and over, often times predictably by the same people! Some do get around to it, but for many, it never happens. Months, many times years later, the funeral home phone will ring and one of their children will say, “Mom says she has it all planned with you, Dan”. I am blessed with a good memory inherited from both my parents, and often I can pull out statements their parents have made about things they like; songs, military honors, services that they like and services they don’t. There are also times when the well is dry and I can’t help them with any specifics even though often times I know their family well.


A new year is a new beginning and if you fall into the category that I just described, you need to resolve that 2020 is the year this necessary part of life will be dealt with. But how do you start?


It begins with a conversation with those closest to you. The National Funeral Directors Association began a program a few years ago called “Have the Talk of a Lifetime”®. It is an awareness program that suggests you sit down and talk about end of life; planning your services and how you want to be remembered. There is a link to the program on our funeral home website and is available from any funeral home who belongs to NFDA. It is an excellent way to open up what can be a sensitive topic.


You can also go through the entire planning process on our website by filling out the pages of information about your background, your family members and your wishes for services. Our website includes pricing information on our professional services, caskets, vaults, urns and printed material. It has links to area florists and cemeteries such as Ft. Snelling, Lakewood and the Catholic Cemeteries. You can plan it all, hit the button and it will be recorded in our offices.


One of our funeral directors, Jessi Rinne, is dedicated to the pre-arrangement process. She has hundreds of meetings a year with people interested in pre-planning their services as well as making payment for them. Minnesota has strict laws about how the accounts are set, using funeral insurance as the means of funding. Jessi is very knowledgeable in all aspects of pre-planning, including the intricate details when Medical Assistance spenddowns are necessary. She is available by either calling one of our three locations or via email jrinne@delmore.com.


Having the “Talk of a Lifetime” is a wonderful gift to your family. It gives those close to you an opportunity to express what they would need when that day comes, as it will for us all. Remember, the funeral commemorates a live well lived, a life that should be celebrated, but also needs to be grieved. Make sure you give those left a chance to share and shed a tear.


So there you have it, click a few times and an entire pre-plan will unfold, complete with an expert who can meet with you for general information and specific plans. A New Year’s resolution that starts with a talk and provides peace of mind for many lifetimes, yours and the ones you care for the most.


-Dan Delmore

October 7, 2025
Embracing Community Oh, who are the people in your neighborhood? Like the Sesame Street song has crooned for 56 years, the mail delivery people, coffee shop baristas and hardware store proprietors are all people that you meet when you’re walking down the street each day! At Gearty-Delmore, we, too, are the people in your neighborhood. With its headquarters on West Broadway in Robbinsdale, our funeral chapel has quietly reigned over the busy street for 70 years. We also have a neighborhood presence on Vicksburg Lane in Plymouth and Wooddale Avenue in St. Louis Park. Family-owned and operated for nearly 100 years by the Davis, Gearty and Delmore families, respectively, we are here to serve you – and the community. A Commitment to Compassion At the heart of our practice are the dedicated funeral directors who demonstrate unwavering compassion and empathy every day. They manage funeral arrangements, of course, but their work also involves consoling grieving families, offering a caring presence, and ensuring that all the details are handled with respect. A true vocation, our funeral directors are consummate professionals who also have a deep-seated commitment to serving people during their most vulnerable moments. Education and Support An important aspect of our work is in educating people about end-of-life planning, grief support and funeral traditions. Every year, at our chapels as well as local churches and/or community centers, Funeral Director and Preplanning Specialist Jessi Rinne hosts seminars designed to empower people to make informed decisions about end-of-life planning. Environmental Responsibility As in all industries, a growing awareness about environmental responsibility and sustainability has increased in recent years. Recognizing this trend, we worked with the Catholic Cemeteries of Minneapolis and St. Paul to begin creating natural burial sections within its cemeteries. While this is still an emerging area, we are proud to have taken these proactive steps to help families interested in more eco-friendly burial options. Community Engagement Businesses that act as strong corporate citizens are important to the people in your neighborhood. From monetary sponsorships and donations to volunteer hours, our organization and funeral directors have given back to the community in countless meaningful ways. Local boards and chambers have benefitted from owner Dan Delmore’s leadership and strategic thinking skills. Several of our funeral directors have served on Robbinsdale’s Whiz Bang Committees over the years. Our team members have mentored robotics teams and coached youth hockey, softball and baseball teams across the Twin Cities. And the number of volunteer hours racked up by the team at their churches and children’s schools also add up to engaged citizenship! Caring for the Poor In the Catholic Church, "burying the dead" is considered a corporal work of mercy, which is an act of respect and charity for the deceased. Burying or entombing the deceased’s body or cremated remains is a way to show reverence for those who have passed away. Gearty-Delmore has a long-standing practice of ensuring a dignified end-of-life commemoration for the poor among us. At these times, our directors, along with other caring members of the community, give of our time and resources to ensure a proper burial for a member of our society whose death might otherwise go unnoticed. A Lasting Impact We believe that our legacy lies not only in the funeral services we provide but also in the positive impact we are leaving on our communities. Whether through acts of kindness, educational outreach, or environmental stewardship, we are proud of the commitment we’ve made that goes well beyond our professional obligations. It’s all about showing up. Which reminds us: we had a great time when we showed up at the 2025 Robbinsdale Meet and Greet earlier this fall. After all, we are the people in your neighborhood!
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